Benjamin Franklin’s secret of success was this. “I will speak ill of no man and speak all the good I know of everybody”
In short any fool can criticise, condemn and complain -and most fools do.
So Mindwod followers, we need you to develop the self control and character to be understanding and forgiving as “a great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men” ( Carlyle)
Commit to understand people rather than condemning them. Figure out why they do things , Its actually far more intriguing than simply criticising, and it “breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness”
The problem with criticism is that it often pushes people into being defensive. People are not logical: they are bundles of emotions, with prejudices fuelled by pride and vanity. They often cannot see their own short comings. Dale Carnegie quotes Warden Lawes “few of the criminals in sing sing regard themselves as bad men… most attempt by a form of reasoning , fallacious or logical , to justify their anti-social acts”
The simple fact is that you will find numerous examples of the futility of criticism throughout history. It simply does not work .
Wanting to help people change is a great aim, but, start with yourself. As confucius said ” don’t complain abut the snow on your neighbours roof when your own doorstep is unclean”
Todays MindWOD task is to reflect on this.
Thanks to Dale Carnegie and his book “how to win friends and influence people”